Heard yesterday from my osteo (whilst I was being crunched and popped) that he has a friend who is, like me, a stop at home dad; interestingly he is working on a book provisionally entitled 'We've been conned'.
Apparently its central theme is that women have for ages conned us into believing that the job of doing the domestic work and childcare is very, very, very difficult, and that we as men are not up to it .... and he thinks it is a breeze ... grrrr !!
I'd love to see his day/house/loft/fridge/playroom/laundry as I suspect that he is in denial as well as quite possibly at war with his wife. Or maybe has a team of manservants (woman-servants?) on hand and London's finest concierge service. I'd especially like to hear his wife's assessment of his performance.
This seems to be a good example of that classic insecure over-achieving, over-ambitious 'can definitely do' 'deny every weakness' trait frequently exhibited by bottom-sniffing wannabe alpha males in corporate structures, such as the workplace he graciously resigned from to do the 'dadding'.
It's 2010 - turn your gaze to the city and look where that thinking has brought us - so many of these men definitely could not do what they were either convinced they could or were told they could ....
With more women at the helm would not the world be a slightly less greedy and bereft, but slightly more humane place right now ? Whilst far from a perfect sex, women just have a better way of getting the job done from what I have seen.
More harmony, soul, empathy, care, cooperation and foresight and forward motion; less bravado, less bullshit, less swagger, less dogma and definitely less misery.
My own personal experience is that househusbandry has been the most challenging thing I have ever done, topping my youthful ambitions and efforts to become a rockstar (minor success but then it's a very competitive area !) and building two of my own businesses (slightly better efforts). I can see the odd grey hair, and my nerves are shattered from the baby-toddler lack of sleep thing. My tolerance is all used up. I will never be the same. I am uncertain of what talents I possess anymore.
So, I happen to think that if someone has found a way to do it effortlessly they should keep their bloody trap shut or write a book about it so we can all judge their methodology for ourselves ... hence I will definitely be looking forward to the book he has planned hitting the shelves !;?
Ok .. Back to the point I am trying to make, I think it's time for all men to respect the women in their lives more, trust and appreciate the unique talents of their partners in humanity - not belittle them with competitive alpha-male nonsense like this example.
There is just a small chance that this way, the women they deal with may just respect and see more of the good in them, and then they'll no longer need to puff up their feathers in this insanely destructive way that takes us to war or to bankruptcy.
Men - Don't be afraid; admit it - you're bored with behaving like you're in the playground ! Open up and chill out a bit - find something to admit you're rubbish at, and get over your cocky selves !!
Somewhere between Cave-man and Metrosexual Moisturised Man there lies a happy path, where the woman you care about will still love you, want you and admire your unusual ways ....... and guess what ?
You're worth it !
No comments:
Post a Comment